Goodman column: Opt-out myth does not add up for women

Published 12:00 am Thursday, July 31, 2008

BOSTON ó Let me begin by raising a glass of champagne to the official closing of the math gap. It turns out that girls do not lack the math gene. Nor are they math-phobic. Nor is there any “intrinsic” difference between the abilities of girls and boys to succeed in the numbers business.
A new study of the math scores of 7 million students in 10 states shows that girls are now on a par with boys. Girls have gotten to parity the new-fashioned way. By taking more math classes.
This comes just in time for our young math whizzes to figure out a harder puzzle. There is another gender gap closing, this time in the workplace. After decades spent pursuing equality in wages and work, women have finally achieved it ó ta da ó in job loss.A report shepherded through Congress by Rep. Carolyn Maloney shows that since the 2001 recession, women have lost jobs and withdrawn from the workplace at the same rate as men. And they’ve remained out for the same reasons as men: layoffs, downsizing, outsourcing and wage stagnation. This is not the sort of equality we were looking for. But if there is any good news, it’s that this report may finally, permanently, firmly debunk the idea that droves of women are “opting out” of the workplace for full-time motherhood.
The “opt-out revolution” has been a tenacious story line. It arrived full-born with a 2003 New York Times Magazine article declaring: “Why don’t women run the world? Maybe it’s because they don’t want to.”
On the contrary. Sociologists went to talk with opt-outers, who gave a far more complex picture of the day work push came to child pull. But the story kept chugging along on lifestyle pages and in conservative think tanks.
Mathematically speaking, it divided women, especially mothers, and turned the sisterhood into a firing squad. The narrative didn’t survive just because it fit traditional views about a woman’s place. It reflected the inner struggle of many mothers trying to balance work and home.
In hard times, it was easier to tell yourself and others that you’d opted out than been pushed out. It framed the whole debate in the language of choice rather than hard decisions.
The downside, the subtraction lesson, is that the “choice” frame makes it far too easy to reduce the problems of work and family to the lowest common denominator: one woman, one family, one personal decision. “If it’s true that women don’t want to work,” says one economist, “think of all the problems that disappear overnight. We don’t have to think about family leave or after-school or the day-to-day grind or the tough challenges of work and family.”
Along comes the congressional report on the equality we didn’t want. “When we saw women starting to drop out in the early part of this decade, we thought it was the motherhood movement, women staying home to raise their kids,” said congressional economist Heather Boushey. “We did not think it was the economy, but when we looked into it, we realized that it was.” That’s what math does to you.
We are getting a fuller picture of the real troubles women and families face these days in what we aren’t supposed to call a recession. When men are downsized, outsourced and discouraged, we say they’re unemployed. But when women get pushed out of the economy, we like to say they “opted out.”
But now we know that women too have the math gene. And this just doesn’t add up.
Ellen Goodman’s e-mail address is ellengoodman(at)globe.com.